Like a lot of people, I tend to picture the holidays of my youth like a Norman Rockwell painting: My sister stringing garland around the tree, me in the kitchen lighting the menorah, my brother spinning a dreidel as Andy Williams croons “Sweet Little Jesus Boy.” Although I don’t recall ever seeing that scene depicted on the cover of the Saturday Evening Post.
Yes, it can be disorienting when religions collide under one roof. With a Catholic father and a Jewish mother (and none of us practicing either religion in any discernible way), my family was committed to commemorating all the holidays that came down the pike, including, in no particular order, Hanukkah, Christmas, Easter, Passover and, if my mother’s Bubbe was in town, Yom Kippur. (Fortunately for us, Bubbe lived out her final years in Israel, where we were somehow able to convince her that the reason she hadn’t seen my bar mitzvah pictures was because I had been 12 for the past four years.)
And that type of holiday tradition continues in my home today, despite the fact that I have a wife who actually knows what she believes in. (Theresa is Catholic but is an ardent admirer of “Fiddler on the Roof.”) She feels that it’s important that I teach our two children, now 6 and 8, about their Jewish heritage, even if I picked up most of it from Neil Simon movies.